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What can we talk about?

It is okay to talk about anything in counseling that is important to you and your goals. Your counselor can be the person that you can talk to about the things you don't want to share with others in your life. It’s up to you to decide what you want to share and when you’re ready to share it.

Most of the time, what you and your counselor discuss is private. Even if you're very young, we want you to be able to talk to us without worrying about what we may tell your parents. If we think there's something your parents need to know about, we'll discuss that with you and together we'll agree on what to do about it.

You do need to know one thing: counselors are legally required to report to appropriate authorities ongoing abuse of a child, an elderly person (over age 60), or a disabled person. If you tell your counselor you are planning to seriously harm or kill yourself or someone else, he or she will need to take action to protect you and that person, and that could involve sharing what you've said with someone else. If you’re ever concerned about whether your counselor might have to report something you’re considering saying, please feel free to ask.

What will we do in counseling?

That's something you, your parent or guardian (if you're under 18), and your counselor will decide together. Everyone is different. One person may get the most out of counseling by just talking about whatever's on his mind to someone who's there to listen without judging or telling him what to do. Another person may need someone to teach her new skills, assign homework to help her practice them, and remind her to use them in daily life.

You may have a good idea about how your counselor can help you. Your counselor will probably have some suggestions to offer, based on his or her training and experience. We'll discuss them until we can agree on something. We never want you to feel like you're being forced to do something you don’t believe is right for you.        

What can counseling do for me?

You (and your parent or guardian, if you’re under 18) decide what you want to accomplish. Here are some examples of goals people may come to therapy to pursue:

  • I want to stop getting in trouble so much.
  • I want to have fewer anxiety attacks.
  • I want to learn how to stay focused on my homework.
  • I want to get along better with my family (or my classmates, co-workers, or spouse)
  • I want to feel better about myself.
  • I want to stop eating so much junk food.
  • I’m not sure what I want to work on, but I know I’m not happy with how things are now.

It’s okay not to know right away exactly what you want to work on. Sometimes it helps to just talk for a few weeks.  After a while, you’ll probably start to figure out how therapy can be helpful to you. As your counselor gets to know you, he or she will be able to suggest some ideas if you want them to.But it’s always your decision what you want to try to accomplish.